How to take a break during conversations at home when either partner is getting flooded.

a) If one person asks for a break, the other partner needs to agree without either partner trying to get the last word into the conversation. Just stop.

b) Agree on a time that they will get back together again to resume their conversation. The break needs last at least 20 minutes, but no longer than 24 hours.

c) Next part and go to separate places where neither of you can no longer see or hear each other, if possible, such as separate rooms in the house or one person outside while the other remains inside, etc.

d) During the break, do something self-soothing that takes your mind off the discussion/mismatch with your partner such as reading a book, listening to some music, taking a walk, going for a run, tend to xhikfeen etc.

It's important that you try not to think of how you can next respond, right away, as that will only keep your nervous sysyem flooded. Allow imaginary conversations in your head about your partner or yourself to subside, so you can more calmly take responsibility for your own behavior so you then can return more calmly to discuss and repair with your partner.

e) Each return to talk together at the time you designated earlier. If either of you are not yet calm, she or he needs to still return at that time, but then ask for a specified additional amount of time in order to fully calm down. This builds trust that the concern is not being dropped nor stonewalled.

f) After returning to one another in a calmer state, try to resume the conversation, and if needed do the repair steps. How To Have A Repair Conversion