Goals and Objectives of Couples Therapy

The major aim of therapy is increasing your knowledge about yourself, your partner and the patterns of interaction between you. Therapy becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better ones.

The key tasks of couples therapy are increasing your clarity about:

  • The kind of life you want to build together

  • The kind of partner you aspire to be in order to build the kind of life and relationship you want to create

  • Your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be

  • The skills and knowledge necessary to do the above tasks

Tradeoffs and Tough Choices

To create sustained improvement in your relationship you need:

  • A vision of the life you want to build together

  • To have a life separate from your partner because you are not joined at the hip

  • The appropriate attitudes and skills to work as a team

  • The motivation to persist

  • Time to review progress