• Individual Sessions
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    • Steps to Start Couple Therapy Video
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    • Listening to Shame
    • Atomic Habits
    • When You Feel Shut Down, The Impact
    • Power of Vulnerablity
    • Forgiveness and anger
    • Stop Dumb Arguments, before you begin them
    • Cognative Dissonance
    • How Grief Rewires Your Brain
    • Spoon theory — for atypical energy levels
    • Compassion: It is an human instinct
    • What Is Narcissism?
    • Dopamine Detox
    • When Things Fall Apart
    • Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me (Cognitive Dissonance)
    • BREATHING and anxiety reduction
    • Body Based Release
    • Boundaries
    • 8 c's
    • State Specific Memory
    • Grief/Trauma Recovery Letter Process
    • 13 Strategies For Overcoming Shame
    • 13 Self-Compassion Phrases
    • Cognitive Dissonance
    • Internal Family Systems
    • Attention Deficit Disorder
    • The Voices In My Head
    • Difference between Panic Attack and Heart Attack
    • Attachment Injury Trauma Recovery
    • Mindfulness In Plain English
    • Divorce Recovery
    • Dating and Finding A Partner
    • Meditation & Brain
    • Subconscious Cue Word Procedure
    • Practicing Compassion
    • Psychiatrist Referrals
    • Emotionally Focused Therapy For Couples
    • ADHD Explanation
    • What happens when we sleep
    • Grief rewires after losing someone
    • Signs of Autism in Adults
    • ASD - Autism Spectrum Disorder
    • There Is Hope In Resentment
    • Gottman Couple Counseling
    • Emotional and Need Detector
    • Make Better Bids for Connection
    • Couples On The Brink: Leaning Out or In?
    • The Four Moves Of Being Heard
    • Logical Fallacy Detector
    • Logical Fallacy Analysis
    • Four Horsemen
    • Accepting Influence
    • Emotional Flooding
    • Stonewalling
    • The PAUSE sooner
    • Window of Tolerance
    • The Emotional Intensity Meter
    • Turning Away Example
    • How To Complain Without Hurting Your Partner
    • Repair After An Argument
    • Flexible and Core Needs in Relationship
    • UNSOLVEABLE PROBLEMS: Dreams Within The Conflict
    • Complaint Formula
    • Understanding Must Precede Advice
    • TIMEOUTS for Relationships
    • The CIRCLEBACK
    • How Enduring Vulverablities Are Affecting Your Marriage
    • Perpetual Problems and Solvable Problems
    • Gottman Love Lab
    • Online Relationship Checkup
    • Sound House Of Relationship
    • Vulnerable and Protective Emotions
    • WE ARE JUST DIFFERENT PEOPLE!? WHAT CAN I DO!???
    • Feelings/Needs and Requests
    • Two Kinds of Domestic Violence
    • NVC - Non Violent Communication
    • Self Soothing
    • Shared Meaning
    • State of the Union Check In
    • Couple Development Scale on Differentiation Spectrum
    • Differentiation in Relationships
    • Anger is hot. Contempt is cold.
    • Compassionate Agreements vs. Rules
    • Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings
    • Sustained Behavior Change
    • The Five Love Languages
    • How To STOP A FIGHT
    • 3 Common Problems in ALL Relationshpips
    • Second Order Change
    • Five Languages of Apology
    • Gottman 7 Principles Book Summary
    • Hanging Onto To Yourself, and Being Close
    • How To Get The Most Out Of Couples Therapy
    • Why Relationships Are So Hard
    • How You Know You Are In The Green
    • Gottman Couples Counseling Study
    • A List Of Core Needs
    • Emotional Bank Account
    • Verbally Abusiveness in Relationships
    • Gottman Charts
    • Eroticism & Self-Care Plan
    • Are You a Sex Addict? 10 Questions to Ask Yourself
    • Sexual Closeness
    • NEED BASED Conversations - NVC
    • Premarital and Dating
    • 52 questions before moving in
    • Marital Separation
    • Understanding Infidelity & Recovery
    • Infidelity Recovery
    • 3 Reasons Couple Come to Counseling
    • Love Maps
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    • Steps to Start Couple Therapy Video
    • Grief Recovery Sessions
    • EMDR Sessions
  • Individual-Study
    • Listening to Shame
    • Atomic Habits
    • When You Feel Shut Down, The Impact
    • Power of Vulnerablity
    • Forgiveness and anger
    • Stop Dumb Arguments, before you begin them
    • Cognative Dissonance
    • How Grief Rewires Your Brain
    • Spoon theory — for atypical energy levels
    • Compassion: It is an human instinct
    • What Is Narcissism?
    • Dopamine Detox
    • When Things Fall Apart
    • Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me (Cognitive Dissonance)
    • BREATHING and anxiety reduction
    • Body Based Release
    • Boundaries
    • 8 c's
    • State Specific Memory
    • Grief/Trauma Recovery Letter Process
    • 13 Strategies For Overcoming Shame
    • 13 Self-Compassion Phrases
    • Cognitive Dissonance
    • Internal Family Systems
    • Attention Deficit Disorder
    • The Voices In My Head
    • Difference between Panic Attack and Heart Attack
    • Attachment Injury Trauma Recovery
    • Mindfulness In Plain English
    • Divorce Recovery
    • Dating and Finding A Partner
    • Meditation & Brain
    • Subconscious Cue Word Procedure
    • Practicing Compassion
    • Psychiatrist Referrals
    • Emotionally Focused Therapy For Couples
    • ADHD Explanation
    • What happens when we sleep
    • Grief rewires after losing someone
    • Signs of Autism in Adults
    • ASD - Autism Spectrum Disorder
    • There Is Hope In Resentment
  • Relationship-Study
    • Gottman Couple Counseling
    • Emotional and Need Detector
    • Make Better Bids for Connection
    • Couples On The Brink: Leaning Out or In?
    • The Four Moves Of Being Heard
    • Logical Fallacy Detector
    • Logical Fallacy Analysis
    • Four Horsemen
    • Accepting Influence
    • Emotional Flooding
    • Stonewalling
    • The PAUSE sooner
    • Window of Tolerance
    • The Emotional Intensity Meter
    • Turning Away Example
    • How To Complain Without Hurting Your Partner
    • Repair After An Argument
    • Flexible and Core Needs in Relationship
    • UNSOLVEABLE PROBLEMS: Dreams Within The Conflict
    • Complaint Formula
    • Understanding Must Precede Advice
    • TIMEOUTS for Relationships
    • The CIRCLEBACK
    • How Enduring Vulverablities Are Affecting Your Marriage
    • Perpetual Problems and Solvable Problems
    • Gottman Love Lab
    • Online Relationship Checkup
    • Sound House Of Relationship
    • Vulnerable and Protective Emotions
    • WE ARE JUST DIFFERENT PEOPLE!? WHAT CAN I DO!???
    • Feelings/Needs and Requests
    • Two Kinds of Domestic Violence
    • NVC - Non Violent Communication
    • Self Soothing
    • Shared Meaning
    • State of the Union Check In
    • Couple Development Scale on Differentiation Spectrum
    • Differentiation in Relationships
    • Anger is hot. Contempt is cold.
    • Compassionate Agreements vs. Rules
    • Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings
    • Sustained Behavior Change
    • The Five Love Languages
    • How To STOP A FIGHT
    • 3 Common Problems in ALL Relationshpips
    • Second Order Change
    • Five Languages of Apology
    • Gottman 7 Principles Book Summary
    • Hanging Onto To Yourself, and Being Close
    • How To Get The Most Out Of Couples Therapy
    • Why Relationships Are So Hard
    • How You Know You Are In The Green
    • Gottman Couples Counseling Study
    • A List Of Core Needs
    • Emotional Bank Account
    • Verbally Abusiveness in Relationships
    • Gottman Charts
    • Eroticism & Self-Care Plan
    • Are You a Sex Addict? 10 Questions to Ask Yourself
    • Sexual Closeness
    • NEED BASED Conversations - NVC
    • Premarital and Dating
    • 52 questions before moving in
    • Marital Separation
    • Understanding Infidelity & Recovery
    • Infidelity Recovery
    • 3 Reasons Couple Come to Counseling
    • Love Maps
    • Assess
    • The Problem With Sincere Transformation
  • About
  • Policy
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