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    • When Things Fall Apart
    • Stop Dumb Arguments, before you begin them
    • Cognative Dissonance
    • Spoon theory — for atypical energy levels
    • How Grief Rewires Your Brain
    • Compassion: It is an human instinct
    • Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me (Cognitive Dissonance)
    • BREATHING and anxiety reduction
    • 8 c's
    • Body Based Release
    • When You Feel Shut Down, The Impact
    • Internal Family Systems
    • State Specific Memory
    • 13 Strategies For Overcoming Shame
    • 13 Self-Compassion Phrases
    • Cognitive Dissonance
    • Attention Deficit Disorder
    • The Voices In My Head
    • Difference between Panic Attack and Heart Attack
    • Attachment Injury Trauma Recovery
    • Divorce Recovery
    • Dating and Finding A Partner
    • Meditation & Brain
    • Subconscious Cue Word Procedure
    • Practicing Compassion
    • Psychiatrist Referrals
    • Emotionally Focused Therapy For Couples
    • ADHD Explanation
    • What happens when we sleep
    • Grief rewires after losing someone
    • Signs of Autism in Adults
    • ASD - Autism Spectrum Disorder
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    • Emotional Flooding
    • The Emotional Intensity Meter
    • Stonewalling
    • Accepting Influence
    • Window of Tolerance
    • Logical Fallacy Detector
    • Logical Fallacy Analysis
    • The PAUSE sooner
    • Turning Away Example
    • Repair After An Argument
    • How To Complain Without Hurting Your Partner
    • Flexible and Core Needs in Relationship
    • UNSOLVEABLE PROBLEMS: Dreams Within The Conflict
    • How Enduring Vulverablities Are Affecting Your Marriage
    • Perpetual Problems and Solvable Problems
    • Sound House Of Relationship
    • TIMEOUTS for Relationships
    • NVC - Non Violent Communication
    • The CIRCLEBACK
    • Vulnerable and Protective Emotions
    • Gottman Love Lab
    • Online Relationship Checkup
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    • The Problem With Sincere Transformation
    • Two Kinds of Domestic Violence
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    • Shared Meaning
    • State of the Union Check In
    • Couple Development Scale on Differentiation Spectrum
    • Differentiation in Relationships
    • Anger is hot. Contempt is cold.
    • Compassionate Agreements vs. Rules
    • Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings
    • Sustained Behavior Change
    • The Five Love Languages
    • How To STOP A FIGHT
    • 3 Common Problems in ALL Relationshpips
    • Second Order Change
    • Five Languages of Apology
    • Gottman 7 Principles Book Summary
    • Hanging Onto To Yourself, and Being Close
    • How To Get The Most Out Of Couples Therapy
    • Why Relationships Are So Hard
    • How You Know You Are In The Green
    • Gottman Couples Counseling Study
    • Emotional Bank Account
    • Verbally Abusiveness in Relationships
    • Gottman Charts
    • Eroticism & Self-Care Plan
    • Are You a Sex Addict? 10 Questions to Ask Yourself
    • Sexual Closeness
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Relationship Resentment

August 30, 2024 Don Elium

Resentment is a strong feeling that builds up when someone feels wronged or treated unfairly.

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In Resentment, forgiveness Tags resentment, relationship, divorce, forgiveness, hope, hurt, four horsemen, criticism, defensitve, predictor of divorce, unhappy, can’t forgive, shutdown
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